I give everyone one chance to show me who they are ... and I believe them. I blame no one for their trauma but I do blame them for deciding to spread it to others and drag innocent people into their darkness. No one deserves that and I don't abide it.
There is always a handful of people who think that negativity is some inevitable thing that must be endured or else you're not strong. Wanting peace and choosing positivity isn't weakness, it's wisdom.