Social media is not life. It's a VERSION of life people choose because it's easier, it makes you feel like you have more control than in real life, and it makes you feel more brave when you want to do awful or very abnormal things.
99% of people AREN'T doing ANY thinking on a conscious, deliberate, or active level AT ALL times and if you think you are, you're probably deluding yourself. You're not media literate.
Where is your wound? Projecting your own reality into the outside world and using your preferred connotations to interpret what you see out there is DELUSIONAL.
There is a difference between being DENIED choice and simply not liking what is presented for you to decide upon. If the choices you make determine your character, then who are you if you make no choices except when one benefits you?
We don't all have the same 24 hours in a day. People who say such things have no sense of their own privilege and don't understand the concept of people having different realities.