I grew up in a household of people who never saw me as a person, as something with a heart and soul of my own. At this point being ME is one of the most important things to me.
Focusing on SELF isn't inherently negative. Don't let anyone convince you of that nonsense. That's THEIR EGO and their SELFISHNESS trying to suppress you and CENTER themselves.
The more you you accept other people's terrible and unhealthy treatment of you and others … the more scars you're willingly accepting that don't even BELONG to you …