No one is blaming ANYONE for having privilege. What people are asking is that you realize you have, and benefit from, privilege regularly and that judging other people from a position of privilege is gross and ignorant.
You cannot teach everyone the same things in the same way and you cannot force people who have completely different cognitive processing frameworks to learn the way that other people do.
If you can't look within ... if you can't reign you anger in ... if you can't recognize your own trauma ... then you will probably only ever inflict trauma on others. You have to start with SELF.
Your life, as a positive, forward focused person, is too valuable to waste on pointless pursuits. Others are waiting for your light and who need support and reinforcement to survive this mad world.