If you can't look within ... if you can't reign you anger in ... if you can't recognize your own trauma ... then you will probably only ever inflict trauma on others. You have to start with SELF.
Adults are stupidly resistant often to the idea that they need to learn HOW TO THINK ... but can you imagine how epic social media would be if everyone only primarily used HOT skills for engaging and posting? God ... what a HEAVEN that would be.