Is it me? Am I the drama? I don’t think I’m the drama… Maybe I am! Am I the villain? I don’t think I’m the villain!
Scarlet Envy (Season 11, RuPaul’s Drag Race)
I potentially could be yeah.
Gemma Collins responding to the question whether or not she might be toxic on Celebrity Big Brother
AMI and SMI are “Any Mental Illness” and “Severe Mental Illness”.
I often say that the majority of people I have met on and off the net are mentally ill in some way and that’s not an insult, it’s simply truth.
AMI has a very simple definition: 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖 𝙙𝙞𝙖𝙜𝙣𝙤𝙨𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙚 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡, 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙡, 𝙤𝙧 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙤𝙧 𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙣 𝙖 𝙙𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙡𝙤𝙥𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙤𝙧 𝙨𝙪𝙗𝙨𝙩𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚 𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧.
A mental illness is a condition that affects a person’s thinking, feeling, behavior or mood.
There are mild mental disorders that don’t severely impact a person’s day to day living and then there are SMI that do.
Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress … just as trauma is simply 𝙖𝙣𝙮𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙤𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙢𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙘𝙤𝙥𝙚, mental illness is 𝙖𝙣𝙮 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡, 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧𝙖𝙡, 𝙤𝙧 𝙚𝙢𝙤𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙖𝙡 𝙙𝙞𝙨𝙤𝙧𝙙𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙢𝙥𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪𝙧 𝙖𝙗𝙞𝙡𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙩𝙤 𝙧𝙚𝙜𝙪𝙡𝙖𝙩𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙗𝙚𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙞𝙤𝙧, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙢𝙤𝙤𝙙.
If you think that definition could apply to a great number of people you’d be right … because in the world we live in we’re constantly battling things like emotional and psychological abuse (from people we know, from strangers online, from the government, from the media), chronic illness, epigenetic trauma, racism, sexism, poverty, hunger and even more … for some these probably are DAILY bombardments. It stands to reason that many people suffer from various kinds of mental dysregulation.
That said, my problem with most people is not that they suffer from mental illness … but that they REFUSE to seek help or healing and continue to inflict that pain they feel upon other people … creating more and more victims of abuse and therefore perpetuating mental dysregulation.
The mental hue of an unwell person is contagious just like any virus and social media HELPS to spread that energy around in highly effective ways. So highly effective that it’s considered NORMAL now.
𝙎𝙤𝙘𝙞𝙖𝙡 𝙢𝙚𝙙𝙞𝙖 𝙖𝙡𝙜𝙤𝙧𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙢𝙨, 𝙖𝙢𝙤𝙣𝙜 𝙤𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨, 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙘𝙞𝙛𝙞𝙘𝙖𝙡𝙡𝙮 𝙙𝙚𝙨𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙚𝙙 𝙩𝙤 𝙢𝙖𝙭𝙞𝙢𝙞𝙯𝙚, 𝙚𝙣𝙝𝙖𝙣𝙘𝙚, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙬𝙚𝙖𝙥𝙤𝙣𝙞𝙯𝙚 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚’𝙨 𝙪𝙣𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙘𝙠𝙚𝙙 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙪𝙣𝙢𝙖𝙣𝙖𝙜𝙚𝙙 𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙖𝙡 𝙞𝙡𝙡𝙣𝙚𝙨𝙨, 𝙢𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙞𝙩 𝙬𝙤𝙧𝙨𝙚.
Self-policing, in this context, is necessary for each and every person. It’s crucial for people to be independently responsible for recognizing their own mental health and how it may affect those around them. There has to be a level of self-awareness and selfNESS – which I have explained and defined countless times here.
One more time for those who still don’t get it:
𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘪𝘴𝘩𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘱𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘌𝘟𝘗𝘌𝘕𝘚𝘌 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘦. 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘕𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘪𝘴 𝘱𝘶𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘴𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘖𝘛𝘏𝘌𝘙𝘚. 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘕𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘭𝘥 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 … 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺 𝘢𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦 𝘴𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘶𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘐𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮. 𝘚𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘕𝘌𝘚𝘚 𝘪𝘴 𝘜𝘕𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧𝘪𝘴𝘩.
SelfNESS is self-policing in a community.
It allows for awareness of whether YOU are part of the problem because of your unmanaged, undiagnosed, or unrecognized mental dysregulation.
If you are someone who genuinely cares about other people, then this idea shouldn’t be foreign to you.
If you are someone who is self-centered and self-absorbed you will push back and feel it’s not your responsibility to do anything for others and that it’s solely on them to protect themselves FROM YOU.
I have come across people like this on social media often, even here on CoSo … people who decide that their menacing, negative, combative, angry energy is perfectly acceptable and that they have zero responsibility to anyone else but themselves.
I say often that 𝘸𝘦 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦 𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴 and that’s true … but if yourself is someone who continuously harms others with no regard for what that means then maybe it’s time to rethink what “being you” means and if that needs to change.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘱𝘶𝘨𝘯𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘯𝘫𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘭𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘳𝘶𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘺, 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘨𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘦𝘥? 𝘛𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘴 …
𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳, 𝘥𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵; 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘩𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘮𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦.
𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘤𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳, 𝘥𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘵. 𝘚𝘢𝘺 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧: ‘𝘐 𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘳𝘺 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘥𝘢𝘺; 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘺; 𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘥 𝘰𝘳 𝘧𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘵𝘩 𝘥𝘢𝘺.’ 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘳𝘵𝘺 𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘰𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘴𝘢𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘬𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘥𝘴. – Epictetus
𝘋𝘰 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘴𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘨𝘰 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘨𝘰 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘴, 𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘴𝘬 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘹𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯. 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘭. 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵 𝘱𝘢𝘪𝘯, 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘥𝘦. 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘦𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯, 𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦.
𝘌𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳. – Epictetus
𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘴 … 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥, 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘭. 𝘠𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘬𝘦𝘯, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘢 𝘧𝘳𝘢𝘮𝘦𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺. 𝘛𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘰𝘤𝘤𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺 … 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘢 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘴𝘺𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘮 𝘢𝘭𝘦𝘳𝘵 … 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘥𝘦𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘛𝘌𝘊𝘛 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘣𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘺. – Elaine Barlow
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