99% of people AREN'T doing ANY thinking on a conscious, deliberate, or active level AT ALL times and if you think you are, you're probably deluding yourself. You're not media literate.
People don't think about their triggers, they are controlled by them and then they respond THROUGH them. Thinking, for most people, follows emotional states. For stoics it's the opposite.
The world hates any confident person who ISN'T A PSYCHOPATH. If you are a confident, educated person - or god forbid a woman - who thinks beyond societal programming, you get punished.
If you can't look within ... if you can't reign you anger in ... if you can't recognize your own trauma ... then you will probably only ever inflict trauma on others. You have to start with SELF.